Working with foster, homeless, sometimes abused children, never knowing my father & my personal experiences has drawn my conclusion. It’s a moral thing.
It is very difficult for me to respect any parent that does not stay, live & physical raise their flesh & blood that they brought into the world.
I believe it to be the most selfish & irresponsible thing a human could do because they are doing it to their helpless self.
If a man could abandon his seed then abandoning a woman, anything at all is easy breeze. If a woman could abandon the human she carried & brought into the world I am at a loss for words.
No money woes, no argument, no fun, no other lover & no drugs should come before taking responsibility for the life you brought into the world.
I don’t care if you were too young, if you can’t take care of it or if it was an accident. There is no accident with the conception of a child. Sex between a man & a woman makes babies.
When one becomes a parent they are no longer a child. Their sole responsible is to raise the child they gave life to. Not their grandparents, family members, one parent, strangers or the government. Figure it out.
I find that in many cases it is a generational thing. Your dad abandoned you, you abandon your child and the cycle goes on.
To me, that single decision tells the tale of that person’s character & self-pride. It will be hard to build my trust. I judge that just like how I judge a person that drops a cigarette or trash at their feet. Writes a bad check, neglect paying back things they borrowed, or just taking what is not theirs.
I know businesses that will not hire a man if he is not married with a family. They claim your home life is just as your credit & criminal record. It shows responsibility, loyalty & commitment.